I should have known the date was going to be a disaster when he suggested we meet in Midtown. In those days we used to say we got a nosebleed if we ventured above 14th Street. Having only lived in New York for about a year, I still regarded the men here like a zoologist observing a new species in the wild: Learning to speak the language was the easy part, a simple matter of trading in the slang of my homeland for shiny, new American colloquialisms:
After 10 Years of Dating in New York, This Is What I’ve Learned
Things You Should Know Before Dating a New Yorker - Thrillist
I was used to the linear progression of old fashioned courtship, an even balance of single men to women, and the norm of dating one person at a time. However, there is a whole set of norms that exist in a fast-paced, densely populated, transient city such as New York. Dating here is like a pinball game — the ball moves quickly from one point to another just like how you can have a fleeting connection from one person to the next. Time is limited, business is the priority, deep meaningful connections are often too much work and time consuming , and everyone is in a constant state of over-stimulation and distraction. New Yorkers work hard, and when it comes to play, they play hard in a world where anything and everything is possible. This creates an ideal environment for casual hook-ups, and a string of fleeting moments. This gap in market versus demand may result in men having an abundance mentality when it comes to the dating pool, and women having a scarcity mentality.
10 Signs Your Boyfriend Is From New York City
He asked you out somewhere cool. You met him while pondering the same Chuck Close piece at the Met, or while he was working as a dog walker in Washington Square. He caught your eye as you stood waiting on the myriad-like line of the Union Square Trader Joe's, or did body shots with you at a Bushwick warehouse rave. There is also the high likelihood the he is a coworker and you find time to rendezvous in the supply closet , or that he bought you a drink at any one of NYC's gajillion bars. He asked you to move in with him before he said, "I love you.
The good, the bad But honestly? No, not in the way you're thinking though, honestly, probably that way, too. New Yorkers are some of the most selfish people in the world -- they'll put their needs and desires before yours without a second thought. And they're not trying to be malicious either.