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Sexless Marriage: When Sex Ends at 'I Do' | HuffPost Life
The majority of marriages are arguably based on the idea that the union will last a lifetime, and that both parties will be happy together forever - but sometimes? It just doesn't work out that way. As this Reddit thread explains, a long, fulfilling relationship isn't always the case - and that actually, it isn't uncommon for a marriage to come to an end in under a year. Here are 9 heartbreaking reasons why.
Sexless Marriage: When Sex Ends at 'I Do'
I have to wonder though, is it really the "norm" for couples or is one spouse limiting intimate interaction due to their own lack of interest in sex or for some other reason? When one spouse conforms to the sexual standards of the other spouse and the marriage becomes sexless, can it still be called a marriage? In most situations, the sexual satisfaction in marriage is a measure of the entire relationship. If a once satisfying sex life becomes one in which sex is infrequent or absent, then more than likely there are other aspects of the relationship that a spouse is finding unsatisfying. I can say this from experience; it is hard to feel as if you are in the throes of conjugal bliss if you're living with someone who feels like a roommate or friend
That said, a study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that the average adult currently enjoys sex 54 times a year, which equates to about once a week. This is less sex, by about nine per year, compared to a similar study done in the s. Interestingly, though, another study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science — which surveyed over 30, Americans over 40 years for three different projects — discovered that a once weekly frequency was the Goldilocks standard for happiness. Sexual intimacy is vital in any relationship, and not just for the sensual pleasure of it all.